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i stress about my relationship with my sister.  But, in truth, there is no reason to stress about it.  I received the answer to this ‘problem’ ages ago.  I can go into the details later.  The details don’t matter.  It’s that sometimes we receive the answer but we keep on looking!  Why?

The answer to poverty is pre-school education.  That’s been proven again and again and again but we just keep looking for solutions instead of making pre-school education the most important thing in every community across America.  I can go more into details later but that’s not the point.  The point is we have the answer but continue to look for it.

The answer to global warming:  wind and solar and geothermal.

Here is a parable.  It’s from Osho.  Apparently, this situation has been with us for a very long long time.

A man is out in search of God.  He runs up the steps to a house and knocks on the door.  “Is God there?”

“No,” comes the reply. “God is not here.”

So he runs down the street to the next house and knocks on the door. “Is God here?”

“No,” comes the reply.  “God is not here.”

So he continues in that way, searching for but never finding God. One day, he runs up the steps to a house and knocks on the door.  “Is God here?”

Yes! My son.  I am here.  You have found me at last.  Come in.

The man, in fear, runs away to the next house and knocks on the door:  “Is God here?”

The moral of the story is, we get so accustomed to seeking that we’re not used to finding.  If you spend your life Seeking God then you will spend your life as a seeker and never Know God.




Don’t Read This Article

  • i liked this and learned that avoiding doing things because we are afraid of feeling pain or failure doesn’t help us to avoid feeling pain or failure.  We feel cowardly, stress from procrastination, miserable in a relationship that should have been ended long ago…. Avoiding the thing because we’re afraid of pain, doesn’t result in  less pain.  ah-ha moment.
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Karthik Margabandu

Shared January 8, 2017

Wow! Living life like a surfer – a brilliant analogy. Good read

Brian Schnack

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Get out there and do the uncomfortable

Soon, you won’t fear feeling. You’ll pursue it like those courageous early morning surfers

Liviya Simmons

Shared January 1, 2017

Whoa my god.

Shannon Low

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Surfing, apparently.

Richard Shahi

Shared January 7, 2017

Fizzle or failure, you end up in the water.

But here’s what I found most interesting: The only difference between a failure and a fizzle was the element of surprise. In all cases, the surfer ends up in the water. There’s no other possible way to wrap up a ride.

Bijay Gurung

Shared March 1, 2016

Accept the outcome instead of dreading it.

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Shared January 3, 2017

I love the comparison

Robert Straus

Shared January 13, 2017

The Unexpected Antidote to Procrastion – Make Yourself Uncomfortable! You’ll grow! #selfawareness #hbr

Mark Coates

Shared January 16, 2017

Live like a surfer—catch a wave and ride it all the way, fall into the water, get back up on the board, paddle to the next wave and do it all again.

Annie Carson

Shared 3 hours ago

Failure is an option.

Here’s the thing: More often than not, our fear doesn’t help us avoid the feelings; it simply subjects us to them for an agonizingly long time. We feel the suffering of procrastination, or the frustration of a stuck relationship. I know partnerships that drag along painfully for years because no one is willing to speak about the elephant in the room. Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But how?


Venkatesh Madihalli

Shared February 15, 2016

Seems a practical and sensible idea !

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amir shah

Shared December 31, 2016

That got me thinking: What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

The answer that kept coming to me was that we would take more risks.

That difficult conversation with your boss (or employee, or colleague, or partner, or spouse) that you’ve been avoiding? You’d initiate it.

Matt Rider

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Live like surfers shred

Chinenye Agwu

Shared January 5, 2017

Amazing piece– very inspiring.

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But

Chinenye Agwu

Shared January 5, 2017

Amazing piece– Very inspiring.

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate. But how?

Chinenye Agwu

Shared January 5, 2017

Taking risks, and falling, is not something to avoid. It’s something to cultivate.

Karen Dellatan

Shared January 10, 2017

Wow. I’ll stop procrastinating na. 😊

Sean Trinidad

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What if we all lived life like a surfer on a wave?

Tracy Chau

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And feel it all. Feel the anticipation of the risk. Feel the pre-risk cringe. Then, during the risk, and after, take a deep breath and feel that too.

John Studdard

Shared December 20, 2016

A perfect analogy on how to overcome Procrastination

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Importante lembrar disso, para não desanimar em dias como hoje…

Start from Today

I’ve been in a funk with very low productivity.  Goals?  What goals?  Finding my socks was about as ambitious as I could be.  Where are my socks? Oh, on top of the dryer because I didn’t have the energy to fold the clothes and put them away.  But, hey, they’re clean!  Yay me. That’s the way it’s been for I don’t even know how long because when you get in a downspin like that, one doesn’t really blog about it or keep track.

Here’s the good news.  It’s a new day.  Energy has returned; things are looking up.  I found myself feeling disappointed in myself and regretting what I DIDN’T do– the wasted time, the failed opportunities and I was thinking, oh why even bother, I’m never going to get this done.

Then I read this in the World Tribune:

What is the distinguishing feature of youth?

Youth is not a matter of chronological age. I believe that from the perspective of faith, all whose lives right now are filled with fresh determination are youthful champions of the Mystic Law.

What matters is not how your situation was last year, or even just yesterday, but how you will challenge yourself, how you will advance and triumph from this year, from today. This is the spirit of the Buddhism of true cause.[1]

Reaffirming this principle that everything starts from now, let’s begin each day with a fresh, renewed spirit.   Daisaku Ikeda

Eileen Caddy today

I have a book by Eileen Caddy, co-founder of the Findhorn Community.  If you don’t know what the Findhorn Community is, Google it– you’re in for a treat.


I felt led to share what I read today in her book, “God Spoke to Me.”

You cannot see yourself reflected within a turbulent pool but when that water has been stilled and becomes like a mirror, you can see the reflection of yourself perfectly.

A state of serenity

Seek deep within and find that peace which passes understanding.  Remain in that state of consciousness so that nothing outward can touch or ruffle your serenity, for it is when you are in this state that I can work in and through you.  You cannot see yourself reflected within a turbulent pool but when that water has been stilled and becomes like a mirror, you can see the reflection of yourself perfectly.  Still your soul until you reflect nothing but the perfect– My love, My light, My wisdom.  In this state of consciousness, you can be used to radiate those attributes to your fellow human beings.

You have started on this path.  Know that practice makes perfect; be patient, be persistent, persevere.  Without constant practice you cannot hope to achieve.  No pianist, singer or artist ever reached the pinnacle of perfection without hours of practice, without repetition.

It would be useless to remain wrapped in cotton wool all your life.  You need a loving and understanding heart and this you find by weathering the rough with the smooth, by experiencing life at its heights and in its depths.  Unless you have experienced, how can you hope to understand deeply?  No lessons need be abortive all have a place in the overall pattern and plan.

Step by step, tread this path with love in your heart and perfection as your aim.  Know that you will achieve and rejoice in that knowing.

One Light

I have two table lamps on my desk at work– one in each corner.  One light bulb burned out this morning. So now there is only one light.  It changes the mood of the room.  That corner is dark.  The room is out of balance.

Now I have to make the probably trite observation of how important each little light is.  Don’t let your light go out.  Know how important your light is.Each light is important.




Teenage mothers give birth to teenage mothers

Teenage mothers give birth to teenage mothers who give birth to teenage mothers who give birth to teenage mothers.

The under-30 Vice President of Research that I worked for in California had dinner often with his parents who entertained CEO’s of major corporations.  He started and sold his own company by the age of 35.

I met a Jewish lady at a party in a wealthy Chicago neighborhood once and she told me about her son who had an idea for a new yogurt product, started a factory, and began to manufacture yogurt.  “How do you start a factory? Or how did he know how to start a factory?”  She looked puzzled at the question and said something, well, you just lease a space, install the equipment and hire staff.  She said it like she was explaining how to bake a lemon pie—like it was the easiest thing in the world and didn’t everybody know how to do that?

Russell Simmons, the hip-hop record producer billionaire, told Norman Lear he was grateful to George Jefferson of the Jefferson’s.  There was an episode where George pulls out his checkbook and writes a check at the kitchen table.  Russell Simmons had never seen a black man write a check.  He didn’t know that was possible.



You and I are limited by our experience and our awareness and expectations and what we know.  We’re limited by how far our parents got on the economic ladder.  We just need to be aware of our limitations—know that we don’t know.

How do we wake up if we don’t know we are asleep?

i’ll attempt to answer that but i’d love to get feedback from readers.

1.Faith that anything is possible
2.Responsibility– once we break free of the cycle of blame (consciously and unconsciously) and take full responsibility for all of our actions and circumstances, no matter what, we begin.
3. Forgiveness, of course.  Stop blaming folks and OURSELVES for past mistakes and move forward.
4. As if… those exercises in Ask and It Is Given are pretty good for getting the experience of being who we want and having.
ok:  your turn:





No Complaints

Complaining is really important.  I don’t care how much meditation, prayer, chanting, self-talk, reading, exercising, (name spiritual/wellness practice here). you do, there’s nothing like a good rant to clear the soul.

There’s that anger studio in Minot, ND where men who’ve been laid off from the evil oil industry get to come and smash things.  It was so popular that the wives said, hey, what about us?  and they opened up special sessions for wives (spouses).

there’s an article about complaining written by someone more clever than I.

i accuse co-workers of being gossipy and catty and THEY ARE.  But, i indulged myself recently in a catty remark about a co-worker and I felt so much better afterwards.

it’s just human nature, I guess.  mean girls.

Follow through on the Guidance You Have Already Been Given

All is well.  That feels weird, doesn’t it?  We’re so used to being in a state of anxiety or worry or discomfort, that when things are OK, we wonder what the heck is going on and how long will it last.  It’s hard to trust OK.

Once, Dr. Tanya said to me as I lie on her table, “You. Are. Well.”  There was nothing wrong with me.  A young doctor in Jacksonville, FL once told me that most of her patients were “the worried well.”

Jeshua Ben Joseph talks about us being addicted to seeking. We’ve been searching for the answers so long, that is all we know how to do.  Search.

Now is the time to trust our knowing.  Now is the time to remember the guidance that we have already been given and go ahead and trust it, and follow it.  Continue to follow it.

Opening up the Crown Chakra will help us to trust our guidance and continue on the path.

Here is a link to some tips on how to do that:

This one is from Doreen Virtue but if you SEARCH, you will find another.

I see the irony.

Much love,


P.S.  This goes for other things as well.  Worldly things.  For example, we know that preschool education is the solution to racial inequality.  Let’s just focus people! and invest in Pre-K.  Study after study after study shows that if a child has preschool education s/he is more likely to complete high school, find sustainable employment and even go on to college.  Those formative years are crucial.  Fewer young men and women of color end up in the correctional system.  I should follow through on my own advice and plug in the facts here.


Today It’s OK

It’s okay to be confused.  Today is not a day for action; it is a day for dreaming, for tuning into the subconscious, for visualizing.

Don’t think today– feel.

In this state of mind, I was flipping through a catalog.  An image of a GARDEN spoke to my heart.  So i rest in that garden image today.

In all the post-election chatter, speculation and emotion, what brings me peace is an article on the Super Moon– a scientific article describing what a super moon is.  Facts.  Nature.  How. Brings me peace.  Not why but how….

Rest in the simple things.  Be present in this moment.

Over the weekend, I watched a video online about water quality.  Citizens for a Healthy Iowa.  Something solid; something happening; something I care about.  I learn about it first before taking action.

Find something solid; something happening; deepen your understanding before taking action.